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7 March 2016

My ex has got back in touch to apologise- should I let her say her piece?

Hi John, Perhaps her getting in touch has made you realise that you still haven't dealt with the feelings that arose in that time of your life? If you feel ...
6 March 2016

Why does my mother have no pictures of when she was pregnant with me and my sister?

Hi Julie, If you don't know why she doesn't have any pictures of herself while she was pregnant- why not ask her? There may be a perfectly good explanation for ...
6 March 2016

How can I sort out the relationship with my mother before I leave the country?

Perhaps the reason your mum is trying to push you away is because you are leaving. It might be her way of coping- the less close she is to you ...
6 March 2016

Why does my mother in law contradict my parenting skills?

Hi CM, It can be difficult for mothers when another woman becomes the centre of their son’s attention. There is a special bond between mother and son and sometimes that can ...

5 March 2016

How can I trust my partner's mother again?

Hi Kelly, Perhaps some relationship counselling would help you and partner communicate better over this issue. It sounds like there is a lot of blame being passed around here rather ...
5 March 2016

How can I help my mum sort out her problems with my sister?

If she is suffering from an illness that's affecting her mobility then perhaps you can help her around the house with chores or run errands for her. Depending on how ...
5 March 2016

How can I help my mum after the argument with our family?

The best thing you might be able to do for your mum is just be there for her and talk to her about it when she's ready. If you try ...

2 March 2016

I want to break up with my partner but I have a holiday booked with my him- any advice?

Hi Minnie, If you are certain that you don't want to be with him then it might be better to break things off with him sooner rather than later. If ...
25 February 2016

Why has my boss asked my colleagues to watch over me?

Hi Sarah, If your boss has told a few people to do this then by addressing it with them, you may not have to name names as to who told ...
24 February 2016

My sibling wants to bring their new partner to my birthday- will it steal all the attention from me?

Hi Sarah, It is understandable that for one day of the year you want to be the centre of attention- a birthday is generally focused on the person one whose ...
23 February 2016

My friend is going through IVF- how can I support her during this time?

Hi Clara, I would suggest taking her lead on this one. If she wants to talk about it- whatever the result- then let her, she needs to feel that she ...
18 February 2016

I hate my new job- should I leave?

Hi Joe, If you were in your old job for a while, it will take a period of adjustment before this new one or any new one becomes the norm. ...

17 February 2016

I've just got engaged but my family don't like my partner- what should I do?

Hi R, Although it's hard not to have the support of everyone when you make a big step with your partner, sometimes you have to learn to ignore their negativity ...
16 February 2016

My friend just came out as gay- so why do I think my partner will do the same?

Hi Emma, It sounds like what happened with your friend has made you overly sensitive to the possibility of your partner doing the same thing. Even if you were not ...
8 February 2016

How can I get my friend to stop copying me?

Hi Kirsty, There are several things you can do to deal with someone who copies you. Firstly I would ask why it makes you so angry- do you like to ...
5 February 2016

Why is my friend being funny with me?

Hi Melissa, It sounds like she is very sensitive and private about her medical condition so perhaps she has been 'funny' with you because she's angry that it's got on ...
5 February 2016

My friend is demanding things from me after helping me out- how should I handle it?

Hi Natalie, If he helped you to study, then you could return the favour. It doesn't sound like you agreed that if you got a job you would pay him ...
3 February 2016

We have only had sex twice in six months and are both insecure- do we have a future?

Hi Kerry, Sex with someone new can be 'rubbish'- because neither of you knows what the other likes or what their preferences are and you might struggle to get into ...
3 February 2016

How do I confront my friends after they told other people my secrets?

Hi Paula, It can be scary to confront someone who has wronged you especially when their betrayal has been told to you by someone else. If you feel that you can't ...
1 February 2016

Does my husband of 31 years still have feelings for his ex?

Hi Winnie, The reality is- your husband had a past before you and he got together. Everyone has a history that doesn't involve their current partner because no couple has ...
1 February 2016

How can I persuade my boyfriend to let me move in with him?

Hi Michaila, It makes sense that he would want to move into a new home with you. His house now may hold many memories for him of past relationships which ...
28 January 2016

Why does my friend undermine me so much?

Hi Rosie, First of all this woman is not your friend- it sounds like she never lifts you up with her words and is always putting you down. True friends ...
28 January 2016

Why did my friends book something I couldn't afford?

Hi Margo, If you can't afford it, you can't afford it- sometimes we have to say 'no' to things because of finances. I'm sure there will be another opportunity for ...
27 January 2016

How can I help my partner to feel better about work?

Hi Tracey, If he refuses to speak to a professional about it then I would suggest all you can do is be there for him as much as you can. ...