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9 December 2016

I kissed my friend's boyfriend, should I tell my partner?

Hi Gabby, It sounds like it hasn't affected your friend's relationship, so we could assume that he hasn't told her. It doesn't seem to have affected your prospects of finding ...

7 December 2016

Is my marriage in trouble?

Hi Marcus, Thank you for getting in touch. It sounds like you have grown apart to such an extent that you feel you can't ask him the questions you are ...
6 December 2016

My new job means working with my ex-friend- what should I do?

Hi Louisa, You have already admitted that this is your 'dream job'- so it might be wise to focus on making a good impression with everyone else, learning new skills ...
16 November 2016

My grandmother bought me a gift I can’t use- should I tell her?

Hi Freya, She likely hasn't even realised that you don't have your ears pierced. You could tell her if she still has the receipt and ask if you could exchange ...

2 November 2016

Is my vagina too wide?

Hi Stephanie, Chances are, if you're not experiencing any discomfort or disruption to sexual function- your vagina is within the normal range. It's possible that if your previous partners were ...
24 October 2016

Why does my boyfriend eat all my food?

Hi Anonymous, This sounds frustrating when it’s likely that you are the one paying or the food if he has no income right now. If you haven’t talked to him about this ...
24 October 2016

Why does my ex feed my daughter such unhealthy food?

Could you take her for a general health check at the pharmacy or the doctors and ask them to talk to her about the repercussions of her weight gain? She ...
5 October 2016

Why did he start dating me while he was engaged?

Hi Sharon, It is understandable that you feel all of these things. The positive in this situation is that you now know the real him and were able to walk ...
5 October 2016

Should I leave my partner because he makes no effort?

Hi Kay, Relationships are judged by what we do more than what we say- the proof is in a person's actions. If he promises something and doesn't deliver on that ...
5 October 2016

My mum has asked me for a large sum of money- should I give it to her?

Hi Kirsty, This is an unusual situation because it's generally the other way around. What I would say is that if she can't afford the property she's in, then perhaps ...
22 September 2016

How can I stop worrying about people reading my diary?

Hi Jill, It sounds like writing in your diary brings you great comfort and nothing else has really given you the means to vent like you do in your journal. If you ...
19 September 2016

Why doesn't my husband of one year want sex?

Hi Alexandra, If he really wanted a child- then perhaps the lack of sex is linked to the miscarriages. He may feel like he's done something wrong or that you ...
14 September 2016

Should I buy a house with him or go travelling?

Hi Martha, It sounds like you haven't spoken to him about your feelings as it seems you are guessing how he is going to react. I would suggest talking to ...
9 September 2016

My roommate has lost his friend to breast cancer- how can I help him?

Hi Alice, This sounds like an awful situation to be in- when you want to help your friend but can’t find a way to at the moment. If he is in his ...
9 September 2016

My friend's partner has cancer- should she leave him?

Hi M Armstrong, I would suggest not giving her advice but simply being there for her and supporting her decision. She has been through it once, so she will understand ...
7 September 2016

Our sex life is amazing but why won't he do certain things with me?

Hi Jess, Just because he has done things with other women that he hasn't with you doesn't mean they have had the best of him- everyone has a different sexual ...
5 September 2016

Why has my boyfriend become distant since he got a new job?

Hi Mia, It's possible that he just needs a bit of time to let everything settle down. If this is quite new to him, he will be trying to fit ...
5 September 2016

My boyfriend smokes- but smoking is a deal breaker for me- should I break up with him?

Hi Amy, It's clear that the act of smoking puts you off, however it sounds like the lying has also affected your relationship. If he lied to you once about ...
5 September 2016

Why won't my partner's step daughter ask me about our wedding?

Hi Linda, It's possible that she has reservations about marriage if her own has ended in divorce. If it's only a recent split, then she might feel sad talking to ...
2 September 2016

Our sex life is awful- should I marry him?

Hi Bride-to-be, It sounds like this recent dry spell in your sex life has had a massive effect on both of you but in different ways. It seems that it ...
30 August 2016

Why is my disabled partner verbally abusive towards me?

Hi Val, It sounds like he is struggling to cope with his new disability and taking it out on you. His words are probably more of a reflection of his ...
24 August 2016

What should I do if my breasts no longer feel sexual?

Hi Fern, Firstly, you are worrying about a problem that hasn't even happened yet so try not to let it dampen your spirits while you're trying and just enjoy sex ...
22 August 2016

My partner works away and I enjoy the distance between us- what's wrong with me?

Hi Steph, It sounds like you might be one of those couples who thrive in a long distance relationship. For some couples it doesn't work but if you enjoy being ...
22 August 2016

How can I give him the space he needs without being a doormat?

Hi Harriet, Even if he wants to be with you- leaving his wife will still come as a huge adjustment as his life is about to change dramatically so he ...