There are about 6,000 known genetic disorders. It is estimated that one in 25 children is affected by a genetic disorder and therefore 30,000 babies and children are newly diagnosed in the UK each year. Some genetic disorders are apparent at birth while others are diagnosed at different stages throughout childhood, and sometimes into adulthood.
Jeans for Genes Day is the annual fundraising campaign for Genetic Disorders UK that supports individuals and families affected by a genetic disorder. Money raised on Jeans for Genes Day helps transform the lives of children with genetic disorders.
This year, Jeans for Genes Day will take place on Friday 22 September (www.jeansforgenesday.org) and ahead of the event, Emily Clarke, Genetic Counsellor at Jeans for Genes, who herself lives with a genetic disorder, Retinal Dystrophy, which affects the retina in the eyes, advises on the best ways you can show your support to your partner if they are affected by a genetic disorder.
#1 Don’t make assumptions
“As there are around 6,000 known genetic disorders in the world, a one size fits all approach certainly can’t be taken when it comes to talking about them. It’s also worth noting that those living with a genetic disorder, whether that be the family or individual, can often feel frustrated with people making assumptions about their condition. Therefore, it’s always better to ask questions and read up on the facts before making generalisations”.
#2 Be understanding
“Being diagnosed with a genetic disorder can turn a couple’s world upside down, meaning their priorities and day to day life must be adapted according to the needs of the individual. Managing the condition can also make family life more hectic and demanding. It’s worth bearing this in mind, especially when trying to make plans or sympathise with those affected. My advice is to be accommodating and give individuals lots of notice and information ahead of time if making social arrangements, and understand that, for couples dealing with a genetic disorder, being flexible may not always be possible.”
#3 Don’t underestimate someone with a genetic disorder
“It’s easy to make assumptions about someone when you hear that they have a medical condition, such as a genetic disorder, and assume that they cannot do something as physically or intellectually well as someone else. However, although life may sometimes be more complicated and certain conditions have more serious health implications than others, it is crucial not to make generalisations about genetic disorders that may lead you to underestimate an individual’s ability.”
#4 Use sensitive language
“Partners often tell us that people can use insensitive language when it comes to genetic disorders, such as, describing their loved one as ‘suffering’ from their condition, which may not be the case. This can leave families feeling frustrated as they try so hard to remain upbeat and positive no matter what might be happening. I would suggest using neutral language as opposed to words with negative connotations and if you’re ever unsure of what words to use, just listen to how someone speaks about their spouse/partner and try to reflect that.”
#5 Be on-hand to help
“As you can imagine it can be stressful negotiating work and medical appointments for any couple, never mind for a couple that is living with a genetic disorder. Therefore, a strong support network of family and friends is crucial in making life easier for individual and families. Partners may need people to offer help when out and about, as it can be difficult to carry out simple tasks like visit the supermarket for a quick shop, when regular medical attention and supervision may need to be provided. Simply being there can act as a huge comfort to those living with a genetic disorder, so don’t be afraid to offer your help.”
#6 Remember – not all disorders are visible
“A lot of genetic conditions are invisible, such as Cystic Fibrosis, Hypertrophic cardiomyopathy, and Phenylketonuria. Many people I speak to explain that when they tell someone they have a genetic disorder – they are often surprised that the condition is not necessarily visible. It is important to be aware of the fact that not all medical conditions, disabilities or health concerns are immediately visible.”
#7 It’s personal
“A common experience amongst partners from the genetic disorders community is that they can sometimes feel judged for the choices they make after they have been diagnosed with a genetic disorder. Dealing with a diagnosis is often a very distressing time for a couple, and one which is very personal and sensitive. Quick judgements and flippant comments are unhelpful and we ask that people always remain open minded and sympathetic towards the different circumstances and choices of every couple.”
#8 Plan ahead
“After a bout of bad health or a series of stressful hospital visits, planning ahead and having couply activities to look forward to is really important. Setting goals for the future and making plans that will facilitate respite and happy memories, is crucial for wellbeing”.
#9 Focus on achievements
“Genetic disorders can make life more complicated for people and this means that celebrating achievements and milestones can be more important than ever. I always encourage couples dealing with genetic disorders to focus on the positive aspects of their situation and despite the inevitably tough times that can arise, morale boosts can sometimes be found in the smallest of things.”
Jeans for Genes Day takes place on Friday 22nd September. To sign up for your free fundraising pack visit https://www.jeansforgenesday.org/